There is one thing however, a question that immediately springs to mind, "Why are you still not happy?"
Because obviously you are not what's making her unhappy even though she thinks that you are! My H does the exact same thing: blaming me for everything in his life like when he lost his keys or the dog chewed up his cord or things I had absolutely no control over. Because I've come to the realization that you can't look to other people or things (I always focused on a new house would solve our R problems or a new job for H). But you have to make yourself happy and I don't think she's figured that out yet!
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Nothing satisfies her.
I am asking myself now, why should I suffer such foolishness? Do I really want to be married to someone who has proven so selfish, shallow and prone to a severe lack of moral judgement? Maybe, for my sons' sake I should -- but, then, are my sons really worth enduring this person she has become? Well, they are worth it, certainly, even if she proves not be, but how long could I possibly hold up in such an insane situation? How long before depression would ensue yet again and I end up having a complete nervous breakdown?
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My H is the same way; no matter what I do he finds fault. And I'm a perfectly smart, good person who has tried to make the family happy (same as you). And it sounds like your W is not able to forgive at all; that incident she is mad about was 5 or 6 months ago? Time for her to let go of that! I think the anger is going to eat her up inside if it hasn't already!
I have wondered the exact same thing. I was so depressed & miserable when living with H and the criticizing, name-calling, yelling, nasty comments, etc. I do think I am stronger now and wouldn't allow him to doormat me as much, but how long would it be before that would make me depressed again (as it would anyone I think)???? When I pray about restoring my marriage I always pray "if it be Your Will", and I have to wonder sometimes maybe God isn't granting my prayer b/c that might not be the best thing for me, having H back full-time in my life? Karen
