Glam- My H went to counseling and was on meds and chose to stop. I have said to him...will you go to counseling? do you take your meds...he says no to all.

My H talks about being miserable, sad, depressed wants to die -- all the time. Glam last summer he tried to kill himself. Went to counseling 1 time - then a month later wanted to come home - I welcomed him with open arms-- he quit counseling and went back to ow. Went to counseling for about a month and quit again.

I AGREE that if they CHOOSE to say help me that we should be there for them. YES!! I also 100% agree with you taht the change has to come from within us of forgiveness and seeing them through different eyes...again I totally agree.

Kindness is good..being a B** bad. Loving hearts - sweet spirit all of that i totally agree with Glam. MY H keeps waiting for me to BITE - Bark - be angry...I just dont have it anymore. GOD took it from me adn I am thankful.

I WOULD LOVE for my H to say HELP ME. I would in a heart beat. He doesn't want my help. At least not now.

M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06
Moved out 3/12/07
D final 7/30/2008
finding myself again