I think you've got a great approach on things, Liss. I mean, he has nothing to be a sh!t about right now. He can't man up enough to just act on his own, and you've given him nothing to react to.
The downside is, sooner or later that dam will break. But, you're taking care of your stuff and doing what you know to do, so let him.
Working out's not my thing either, unless it's 12 oz. curls in diminishing sets.
hey babes))))))))) what a childish fool, me thinks he is looking out for drama, and you are doing right by not feeding him any, eventually ( I pray! ) he will look for drama elsewhere and you can have a normal (whatever that is) week/day/month while you guys exchange kids.
And hon, one word: zumba
You will sweet buckets, you will be sore the next day, but you will have an awesome time doing it! if you like cumbia, salsa, reggeaton, you will love zumba, it's the non-workout that kicks butt.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
Not even 10 minutes passed by, and the water works started.
We told papi we just wanted one day to be with him alone. Why is he taking us over there so much now?
Hugs Lissie. I went through this too. My son would cry and say to me that he just wanted to spend time with daddy at daddy's house. I would hold him and tell him he needed to tell daddy that. I am pretty sure he never did, because he knew what the answer would be. Daddy married the OW 14 days after the divorce, so there is no more time with daddy alone. He also told me he was lonely when he was there, but then he would just play more video games and get happy again. I wanted to scream and cry, but all I could do was love him and try to be there for him when he was with me. The WAS is a selfish creature who puts their own needs above those of their children.....I guess we can't expect more. It is just so sad for the kids.
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He also asked the kids if they have met any guy friend I may have. The kids said no. We only meet mami's girlfriends.
No one is meeting my kids until I know, they are worthy to be around my children.
I totally agree with you on this point. Just because the X shoved his relationship down the kids throats from the moment he moved out does not mean I will do the same. Plus, my time with my kids is precious to me. Just having them away from me at all is painful, I am not going to share my time with them and my attention with anyone else at this point. I don't even talk to my older girls about my social life, because I feel it is not appropriate at this point.
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
