Hi, thanks for your post. I haven't really done this before so wasn't really sure what to do/ say.
We have been together 7 years, living together for 3 and married for 2 years. We are both 26. As soon as we got married he became very ill with a chronic disease. We got through this difficult time really well together but almost as soon as he was better things started to fall apart. He got a new job and I lost mine, he started going out with new friends/ absorbing himself in work and I felt increasingly lonely. It ended up in me pushing him away by my being needy and he left 8 months ago and is living rent free in his parents flat by himself (they have a house in the country that they live in). I am still in our house. We have no kids and no real mutual friends as we have separate friends from university etc. and have not really been married and living in this area long enough to make mutual ones which is why I feel cut off from him knowing anything about me apart from what I tell him.
I am starting to work on myself and admit I am feeling sorry for myself/ helpless particularly today. When I went on holiday I went travelling by myself to Malaysia - I hoped that would prove to him (and more importantly to myself) that I was strong and independent. But when I came back I was clingy again because he was ignoring me and I wanted to know what was going on with this potential OW.
I don't know whether I should just text him (his prefered method of communication) about light things like a TV programme we used to enjoy that is on at the moment to try and establish some form of communication or to just leave him to it - which is I suppose what he wants me to do.
I'm really hoping to find people who are in similar situations to just talk to when I need to. It is so confusing and I feel like I constantly make the wrong decisions and my friends and family just want me to get on with my life so I won't be hurt. I don't want to do this. I love him and really want our marriage to work, it just seems he doesn't.
