Start of the long and bumpy road........

[TwinDad]

This week started my first week witht he kids staying at my place. Also my Mom flew in yesterday to spend some time with them. I thought this was going to be my easy week, but I actually found myself missing my wife even more than I did when I didn't have the kids (not for the things she does, but just because she wasn't there). This is strange considering we had a great weekend and I actually spent the night over there Monday night.

One cute thing my D said was "I don't want mommys house I want Dadas house" I guess she really like the princess bedding set I got for her. It did make me sad because I though well I would like Mommy and Dada to have the same house.

My mom has been glad to see the kids. Though I had to have along talk with her last night about not getting involved in my R. She didn't but I can't afford for her to do so....I don't want her defensive maternal instincts to come out with a W in a MLC.....very bad

I feel bad because my W is having a very hard time at work lately and texted me that her head hurt so bad that she was sick to her stomach. I help nurse her a little bit and then took off to go back to my place. No R talks at all though she did talk about getting a place together again. I felt bad because I left her in an empty house.

In evaluating the last month or so, I have noticed that by being her best friend she has opened up to me more, seems to have a more positive outlook on us again and is starting to let down her defenses a little bit. I have been very careful not to bring the R up at all and I think that in itself has been very refreshing to her. I have also beev validating her thoughts and ideas which she seems to like and it actually allows us to discuss them.

I will have a few opportunities to practice my DB this week with my D class and a family party on saturday. I just hope my Mom doesn't blow it for me (good intentions or not).