It's all done, now.

[cat03]

hey there, I've been on this forum barely 2mths, and still I got my days of "is this happening?, really happening?" I too had only one real R, so did my stbx, so it is a specially bitter drink to swallow, since I never got dumped or dumped anyone.

There's someone out there who looks like her and has her same name, but the good person she was is gone - dead

This is the only way I've been able to cope with my loss, for the man I married 10yrs ago would've never EVER cheated on me and betrayed me the way stbx did. Detaching the good woman from the person your xw has become will help you keep some sanity. I cherish the good times, well, save them in the back of my head, I did have a good and happy R with him at some point. The husk stbx is now, the lying excuse of a man he is now I do not want.

There will be times when the whole cycle will hit you (the stages of grief, all over again) but they will be less damaging. For now, that's all you can do, damage control, it's ok to be angry and hurt, it's natural and you have all the right to feel this way. But do give it a time, dont' let it engulf you nor consume you.

Welcome to the healing board.