CagZ and Trusting, try looking at things from a different angle. I don't think your h's choose not to fix themselves. If they are truly depressed such as diagnosed for bipolar or manic depression, I don't think it's that easy to just jump up and say yes I am healed or I am fixed.
The depression is what prevents them from moving forward. They may need professional help for depression. You could try supporting by candid conversations like you seem like your depressed would you like me to make an appt for you with Dr so and so? I could even attend with you if that would be helpful. Depending on what kind of interactions you have with h's or you could simply suggest in an e-mail and end it with just concerned about you or just thinking of you.
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