My husband and I separated 8 months ago. I have been desperately (note that word!) trying to get him back. We were seeing each other once a week moving to twice a week (at his reluctance)until about a month ago when it seemed like we were making real progress in terms of talking etc. Then we both went on separate holidays for 3 weeks during which time I discovered he had actually gone with another girl who he says, and I believe, that they are just 'really good friends'. Is this an emotional affair??
When I got back, instead of discussing what had happened, or even meeting with no discussion he closed off and told me that' he couldn't do this anymore'. Since then, I have backed off totally and have discovered divorce busting. I am trying the last resort technique and haven't contacted him.
He contacted me twice since to ask how I was and the ask what happens next. I texted back and asked if he wanted to meet. In retrospect I probably shouldn't have done that! He backed off again and texted back a week later to say that he wasn't ready yet. I said that was absolutly fine.
Now I am anxious, it was our anniversary yesterday and he made no contact. How can I employ the techniques if I cannot even contact him, but I know that if I do he feels backed into a corner.
