Update:
Well things have been going in a pretty good direction so far with my H and I.

He has decided to stay at his apartment rather than moving into the party pad he had origonally planned. He thinks he wants to stay another month or so at his place now until we are both ready for him to make the move back in.

We have been romantic and friendly and had a lot of fun dates so far. But we have also duked it out a few times about certain important issues and some boundaries.

I wont say that this piecing stuff is easy at all, it is just a whole new roller coaster ride that I feel like I am on.

I feel my H really still wants and desires his freedom and this new man he has become with all new friends and new hang outs. He has even said to me that he is afraid that I will end up trying to pull him away from who he has become. Of course I try to explain my points but he is still a bit odd (MLC), and so we decided that for now we need to find a happy medium between our lifes and try to balence things out for now.

He has been willing to come to compromises when we argue instead of getting up and leaving like he has in the past. He seems to always come to the conclusion that he wants to work on us and he knows we are meant to be together.

I have a goal to try and hang out with him more often doing things that dont always include alcohol. The reason for this is that H seems to have become quite the alcoholic bar fly in the last 6 months that he was gone.
So we have a great time together when it is just us going to the movies, out to dinner, walking the dog, bowling, golfing, watching tv, talking , and even sitting at home drinking a few drinks together.
The problems arive when we are out at social situations and most involve alcohol (his gigs with his band, trivia night, hanging with our friends on the weekends) so it is really hard to avoid the issues then. We have had issues with the amount he still goes to the bar, the way he seems to be very friendly with all the local woman, and him coming around or avoiding our past friends.

No one thinks I should even be giving him this chance again. They all think that I am crazy and they all label him an alcoholic that wont treat me right.

I sometimes have a fear that he is dragging me through this end part of his MLC with him. The way he talks sounds so good and like he has really awakened, but sometimes I am seeing glimpses of the mlc in his actions still. I feel like he is somewhat torn, but he is not giving me any reasons to believe that he doesnt want this to work out.

I have continued GAL to the max. I am trying really hard to stil hang out with all my friends even though they are all unconfortable with the situation all together. And H and I usually see each other about 3 nights a week and spend the weekends at each others places.

I hope and pray that this will last and become a much better M with time and effort. I hope and pray that H will slow down his drinking and try to stay out the bars more often. I hope and pray for being able to eventually fully forgive him. I know I can forgive him now to a certain extent, but I feel there is still more progress to be made and trust to be rebuilt before I can completely say I forgive all of what he has done.

I most importantly thank God every chance I get for giving my H and I this other chance at making our M work.

Thanks everone for listening, Keep DBing, and I am open to any advise or thoughts.
TIPPER