To Hope or Not to Hope?

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

LL

Here is what I did to my H in the last month to get him to understand EXACTLY what feeding a family of 5 (me and the kids) entails. I left the money he gave me in our joint account (the one he can see all the transactions on) and I have made NO cash withdrawals. I have used the Visa checkcard, the checkbook, or the debit card for that account for EVERYTHING that pertained to the house or the kids---groceries, school expenses, shoes, clothes from the thrift store, etc. He can see exactly where every penny went and that I was not spending money frivolously. The account even gives a snapshot of the face of the check to verify where the check went.

There were no transactions for gas because I use the money I get for babysitting for my niece to cover that and my cigarettes and bagel habit. I have a Durango and $40 did not even give me 2/3 of a tank of gas today--uuggghhh!

I think he has been looking, cause he madea point of telling me exactly what his pay will be on the first, what has to be paid, an what will be left--all of which he is putting in my account. Ironically, I pretty much know this anyway--HELLO I used to pay the bills!

Then again, maybe he is planning on coming home and figures it will be our money, not my money and it is okay to leave it all in the joint account???? I know, I know, rich fantasy life!

SMW