To Hope or Not to Hope?

[MichelleLT]

Well, sounds like, as much as possible, you should try and respect his privacy wishes. Obviously if it is hurting you or, more importantly, the children, you need to put them first.

Perhaps you should get and send him a child care estimate. Maybe then he'll appreciate what it means for you to stay home. Also, if he is fighting you over the bills, send him a copy of a grocery receipt or something if you think that would get through to him.

As always, finances and kids are perfectly great reasons for contact. Avoid R talks though.

And plan the phrasing and timing to get the best chance of a pleasant and productive conversation from him.

Hang in there!!!!