I am by no means an expert. All I can share with you is my own experience with my formerly wayward wife, plus those couple of people I've worked with, and the stories I've followed on these boards (and one other). And with that, I will say that it varies (yeah, I know, some help). In GENERAL, I would say that they begin to come both not as often and not as severe, but again, your mileage may vary.
What I looked for was the content of my wife's reactions after she lashed out at me. She was genuinely remorseful, and her notes and conversations to me reflected an introspection and an understanding of what she had done, so I was okay with her vile outbursts and "pullbacks" as you call them.
