I'll watch your thread then to see what great and mighty wisdom you have for the struggling, like myself. :-)
I did speak to his 1SG about a month or so ago. He (and legal) told me that according to regs, he doesn't have to give me a dime while I am living in military housing. When I move off post (when the kids get out of school), I will get BAH Type 2 plus child support. There are no papers or anything (separation). The reason I mentioned earlier about section 8 housing is because, as a single mother, that is what I'll be able to afford. The job market is not looking too promising for a career stay-at-home mom of 4. H is quick to point out that he is I "am lucky that he is going beyond what he is obligated by army regs to give me". I told him that army regs shouldn't be his standard. His MORAL OBLIGATION to his children should be. He things $300 a month is enough for food, gas, phone, etc. I told him that $300 isn't even enough for groceries ALONE per month. He just has no concept about what it takes to manage a family this size. So he buries his head in the sand and stomps his foot in protest.
His 1SG contacted my H's 1SG at school to pull H in and talk to him. That just made him even madder. One of his chief complaints about me and one of the reasons he gives for "having to" get out of this marriage is that I "continually threaten [his] career by going to his command for everything". He's way off base in his assessment but of course, he doesn't see that. He comes from a family where absolutely NOTHING that's wrong gets shared with outsiders.
