Smart man. You seem to be laying back and watching things unfold, learning all the time.
You probably will continue to think of her every day. I try to turn my angry, obsessive thoughts to imagining that I'm simply holding my husband's hand again, and it's just a really positive image of where I want to be. Doesn't always work, but it helps sometimes.
You might want to give meditation a shot, especially a type called "loving kindness", or love without attachment, or metta. It's really helped me.
