I think she wants to be friends

[sleeper]

Thanks guys.

I may be overanalyzing but here's what happened last year. I didn't go. She tried to get me to go, made multiple offers. At first she was shocked but her shock turned into fury. When she returned she instructed her lawyer to file for divorce.

I'm thinking about driving my own car, stopping by to spend a day or two with her and kids, and then continuing on my own vacation. My plan is to time this so that I arrive toward the end of her stay so she can return home to my absence.

You guys are absolutely right. When she thinks she's lost me she initiates a flury of contact to either draw me back in or see if I am truly done with her. Once she feels comfortable I'm still here she backs off again.

I think another reason to go if only for a day or two is to make OM nervous. He's already not happy with her response to my dating.

If you think I need a 2x4 you have my permission to let me have it.