Oh I know you are right. It IS the stress of him still coming and going whenever he pleases. This is his current schedule: Work until 3, go to school from 4-10, go to the OW's house and mess around with her until 1:00am, come to our house and sleep until it is time to go to work again in the morning. Meanwhile I stay in the house from about 6-10 then I go to my parent's house to sleep.
He stays here not because of abandonment but because of money. He doesn't have anywhere else to go that suits his fancy. His mother said that he could sleep there, but he doesn't like that idea. And since this this is "his house" he is going to be stubborn and not leave. He IS making this so much more difficult than he needs to. But it is only difficult on me. For him he gets what he wants....a lover and a nice home. That is why I am trying not to make this home so nice for him.
That is why I need to go through with this divorce contract. It will say that I will give him x amount of money (enough for him to have a decent apartment) for the house and that he has to leave in a certain amount of time and that the marriage is over. I just wish the whole "marriage is over" section wasn't in there.
Haven't talked to H in 2 days (except for the VERY brief talk yesterday about how he was sleeping at the house). Trying so hard to be hard and detatched, but I am just hurting so much right now. I need to talk to the pastor about these issues that I am going through....
sara
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
