Torn between hope and anger

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How do we deal with the money and car that OW gave to H? I feel it is toxic and want to return every penny even though he spent some of it. I refuse to drive or ride in the car. These people (OW and her mother) were trying to buy my H. It is disgusting. OW had been setting aside $100 every month for the 25 months he hadn't contacted her. She had incorporated a business with him in mind. She had actually driven to our farm (10 hours away) with her mother and left a garden clippers in our mailbox, which we had always wondered about. She basically told him to buy me off, saying she would set me up forever financially so he would feel less guilty about leaving me.

It makes me shudder to think of the mindset that she and her mother have to feel justified in their actions. And it makes me sad that my H fell for it and played his own justification games. He is back to his senses supposedly, but how do we deal with the cash and car that is still left? He says he is completely detached, that we should give away the leftover money and just treat the car like a car. I don't like his attitude. It feels dangerous.