I just re-read the Unexpected Legacy of Divorce conclusion. Why is it that only LBS seem to give a crap as to what our kids really face in this new reality? I won't even try to bother stbx with the results of this study--he would see it as pursuing, and justify it all away.
All I can do is keep reading and try to help my kids deal with the fall-out of all of this.
My FIL asked if I would be ok at the 4-way tomorrow. I said yes. I decided that I will always love my h, and maybe someday, if and when his current romance ends, he will wake up to what happened and grow up. H's feet are still stuck in the concrete he created, while I have grown so much over the last year. But I also recognize that this may never happen, and it might when I cannot go back, myself. He apologized, saying that the stubborness was his trait that his son inherited. I said, maybe Dad, but he didn't inherit the morals, integrity and courage that you have shown.
I just walked past my D's room. She and her brother are on the floor, reading a mythology book together and laughing. How lucky am I to share in their world?
