Oh Ali mou!!!I agree with you so much on this one! Michelle, I echo Ali 100%. For Gr standards you got married way to young also. And I can tell you were ready to live up to the committement M is, but maybe your H wasn't as ready. I don't know what army missions can do to a guy, I see documentaries and staff about all the syndromes they come home with but I think your H needs to grow up on top of any of those that he suffers from.
I posted that link for the article you are talking about. I would LOVE to send it to the OW, but am terrified of the reaction it would get. I mean, heck, when my hysterical D16 called her, it only phased her enough to call H and complain about how D16 was threatening her.
I think they do need a reminder that they are not the only person in H's universe, as much as they would both love to pretend that is the case. I take it your H has still not said anythign about it? HHHMMMMM Very interesting! Wonder if she has even said anything to him?
SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
((((Michelle)))) you continue to do what you are doing now. Working on yourself, going to school, GAL and keeping the door cracked for H in case he ever gets it together.
I so am in the same boat (thank god I caught it, I had actually typed goat... That is not a pretty mental picture. Me in a goat, I think there are laws against that type of behavior!) We just keep on until we can't anymore.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
I was going to ask you but for some reason I didn't. Have you talked about getting a Divorce with him ever? I mean not in the niddle of a fight or anything like that. Has he explained why he doesn't want to? (I can imagine but if you don't mind telling me?) K
I have never brought it up. He was the one who, after the A started, came to me about getting separate places and then said he wanted a D. He was bugging me for a few months about doing a summary dissolution type of D - very fast, no court, no Ls. When I refused, the conversations would turn into huge fights.
He hasn't brought up D in about 4-6 months now I guess. And the last couple R talks we've had, initiated by him of course, he has said he's not sure he wants a D or that he doesn't want a D, he wants to give us a chance - this was where he said he wanted to date. He has said how sweet I am, how I'm such a wonderful person, but he just isn't sure we're right for each other (this is a nice improvement from me being a "horrible controlling b!t@h who has made him miserable" and how our sex life was so boring it drove him into another woman's arms lol)
Of course, now we aren't dating anymore, but I don't know what that means for him wanting / not wanting a D.
Originally Posted By: sadmilitarywife
I take it your H has still not said anythign about it? HHHMMMMM Very interesting! Wonder if she has even said anything to him?
I would be very surprised if she didn't. But because of the time difference, she was probably already long asleep by the time he got back from his camping trip. She may not have talked to him until today. It'll be interesting to see what happens...
In the meanwhile, I am keeping on with school and work. But I feel like I'm not sure what to do about me, about working on myself, about the R. I mean, I need to work out more, and with school & work right now that's practically impossible - so maybe I'll feel better when I can get back into a better routine with that. But other than that, I'm just feeling stuck. I want to do something, but I'm not sure what exactly lol.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
(((Michelle)))) Just wanted to stop by and say hello!
There were a lot of positives in the last R talk you and H had. Focus on those and trust that things will come good in the end. I wish I had something more insightful to say.
Yeah, but apparently it was all talk and no follow up. His actions only backed that up for a couple weeks. And now the latest is that we shouldn't see each other because it's complicated. Whatever that's supposed to mean.
I have a conference tomorrow and will be right near him. So I sent him an IM like 2 hours ago asking if we could meet up for taxes. He never replied. Which would be fine, except when I complained to my friend that he's always busy when I IM him, she said he was talking to her for like the last 30 min straight. So, for whatever reason, he's ignoring me. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
I think if he is back messing with the OW again he feels guilty and not confortable and he can't face you Michelle. I don't think his feelings have changed. He feels overwhelmed with the position he has brought himself to.
