YIPEEE...it sounds like you got good news (well...as good as the situation warrants!)
You sound stronger and more confident about the whole ordeal. Stay this way MrsH..the ball is in your court. I can't wait to hear how JA is going to prove his case. He is going to have to admit to adultery.
I have a feeling he is going to let you move. I do agree that it is better for you to stay married for financial reasons...however; you still need to move on with your life.
You have done a remarkable job standing for your marriage but I think you now have to put yourself and your needs first.