If he wasnt M, I'd say going out drinking and chatting up women would be pretty normal activities for a guy his age (certainly in the UK anyway) and not unhealthy.
Key words being, if he wasn't M of course. I'm not honestly sure why he wanted to get M so young. Besides the fact that it was far the best R either of us had ever been in and we were completely in love. I never pushed him about anything, never brought up moving in together or getting M. He initiated all of that. But since we had such a great R and he was so wonderful, I didn't see any reason to wait. Although I did insist on a year-long engagement instead of the 8 months he wanted. I still don't regret any of that...although obviously he does.
He always was so mature, even compared to my ex-bf who is turning 32 this year. That was one of the things I loved about H. He was funny, introspective, creative, and so very smart.
Then we were forced to live apart for 18 months. And we grew apart. And neither one of us knew how to fix that when he got home (of course, telling me something was wrong would have been a GREAT start). And he ran from it - his boredom, our problems, his nightmares, his memories. And now he's involved a 3rd person in this and is trying to screw up her life as well - of course, it's her choice, but I still feel bad for her sometimes because she is just that naively stupid.
As for our convo, I had IMd him earlier in the day to wish him a happy memorial day. It seemed way too weird not to let him know I was thinking of him on that day in particular. He IMd me later with thanks and then went into the taxes, and then camping, and then how life is so dull, and then the whole bit about the scarred vs. damaged thing.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
