I think pressure is exactly what he needs right now. It's been four months of no pressure and it hasn't gotten either of us anywhere. We are at a standstill in terms of our relationship.

I just got back from the L's office. I have all the stuff I need to get the papers ready and we've dated them for July 14, the Monday after Retro. If he doesn't go, I file. If he does go, then we just have to play it by ear. She agrees that the situation we have going is just letting him get used to D little by little and that it doesn't help our situation at all.


Me: 42/H: 37
T: 10 years/M: 8
D9, S8
Bomb: 7.23.07
Separated: 1.20.08
D Final 3.19.09
Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09

My life is good.