I think pressure is exactly what he needs right now. It's been four months of no pressure and it hasn't gotten either of us anywhere. We are at a standstill in terms of our relationship.
I just got back from the L's office. I have all the stuff I need to get the papers ready and we've dated them for July 14, the Monday after Retro. If he doesn't go, I file. If he does go, then we just have to play it by ear. She agrees that the situation we have going is just letting him get used to D little by little and that it doesn't help our situation at all.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09