Nothing of course has really changed. We had our dinner, at her invitation last Sunday after I dropped the girls off. Then Tuesday we attended the annual sports banquet at school, again at her request. Both times she was apparently wanting to be together but not. She seemed to have some underlying anger that she was fighting off. (Boy do I know that feeling.)
On Thursday the girls had checkups with their doctor and the orthodontist. After these appointments my wife called me to give me an update. In the past this was the kind of thing she would have done via email. Then on Friday she called to tell me she was taking D11 to the orthopedist because a suspected broken finger. Afterwards she called to give me the update then when I casually asked about her day she began to rant about things at work. That was the first time she's really just opened up to me about anything other than the girls or family business.
She had the girls this weekend at our beach house. Knowing she had the girls over the weekend and it was a holiday I had offered to let her keep them with her through yesterday. So she did.
Yesterday I sent her a text inquiring when she was going to bring the girls by and inviting her to join us for dinner. I did this to test the waters a bit because she had invited me last week for the first time in months. Well she replied how about 5. (Side note this is 1 hour before our usual agreed upon time.) I countered with 5:30 so they would have enough time to get back from the beach and get stuff ready. She came by and dropped the girls off. I mentioned she was welcome to stay for dinner but she replied she had errands to run. She needed to go to Target, the grocery store, etc. Oddly she seemed in a hurry to get out the door. She gave the girls hugs then just turned and walked out, not a word to me. As she was closing the door I said in a friendly tone "see ya, have a good week!"
As we got ready this morning I discovered the girls, once again, didn't have the appropriate clothing for school with them, not to mention a few other missing necessities. Needless to say this really made me angry because she seems to be missing the small but important things. It's taken all day but I'm past the anger and will when we speak this evening mention the shirt issue. I won't accuse or in any way imply she needs to step it up. I'll take the high road for certain. Why, I don't want her to ever think anger is ruling me ever again.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
