Bring on the Rain - Part 2

[SueS]

......addition to my post above.

H called me over lunch today. We talked for about 20 minutes. He mentioned some friends of ours that were going on a trip & we started talking about family. I asked him if he'd told his dad yet about us. He said no. One, he wants to let the split between his brother & SIL to sink in for his dad first. Two, he admits that he does not feel like being lectured. That 2nd point just tells me that he knows what he's doing is wrong. If he felt it were right he wouldn't have a problem telling him.

During our conversation, I brought up the fact that we need to go through our storage unit and get through some things. I asked H when he was moving. He said he doesn't know and asked me when I was going to move. I told him it would be at the end of our lease. I flat out told him that I wanted him to start talking to me. He said about what? I told him that this split is happening.....we both know that and have accepted it. I told him that I no longer want to be told by anyone else that my H is moving out in June and the other plans that he may have. My H was silent. He asked who had told me. I told him about my last conversation with OW's H. I said, H, I want YOU to talk to me. I want to hear the things that will affect me & D4 from YOU. I didn't want to, but was crying. H had some choice things to say about OW's H. I wanted to tell him that what he was saying was making no sense. He's bashing OW's H, but yet he's the one tearing 2 families apart. H completely changed the subject. He asked if it was nice outside and if I'd want to take D4 to the park when he got home. He then talked about having dinner together. LOST, LOST, LOST!!

I told a friend today that it seems as if my H knows he's taken things too far and that he can't turn back. He tries to ease his guilt by telling me that he won't take things from me when he moves & that he'll still spend time with me & D4 so she can be with both her mom & dad.

Odd, odd beginning to my afternoon.

SueS