You guys are so sweet! I hope H will see what you guys see soon. Maybe he might just be so excited that I'm not around to drive him nuts for 8 days.
Ha....you have got to love that. Actually, I think you will probably find that he is so used to seeing you on a regular basis that there will be a definite void in his life. He will definitely miss you. He might get excited for a day or two but after that I think you will see an increase in interest in having contact with you. Perhaps this wil make him think what he is missing.
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
Had a 7 minute convo with H this morning. Nothing R related. Logistics yes relationship no. He was very open with me. I spoke to him again this afternoon but very briefly and I got off the phone first.
He'll be here tonight to stay with D. My goal is for him to stick around after I arrive without asking him to. Like a test for me to not initiate R talk while he's here.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Thats the plan! I know he'll call to talk to D at least at night before bed but I won't talk much to him. I'll let him talk to D and if he wants to talk to me too great.
He told me 2 weeks ago that he'll be all by himself when we go. And here I thought he'd take every chance possible to hang with friends. Guess I was wrong huh. I think he will do some thinking though because he'll have time and privacy to do so.
I'm not looking for miracles upon my return just a man who has thought about things more.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
You can do it!!! I am sure he will stay. It sounds like from your posts that he spends a fair amount of time over there. Just keep your head and show your confidence! The kicker would be to get to a point where you would ask him to leave after a while. Like we got a busy day tomorrow. I am not sure I would do it (since I love having my W around) and I don't know your relationship well enough to know if this is a good thing (might not be good to experiment so close to going out of town) but it would certainly add to the "mystery" and "dimness" that is talked about in the DB books.
Do you have any plans for you and your D while in Canada?
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
Yeah I don't think I'd ask him to leave so close to our trip. The idea is for him to get used to having us around and then having something to miss while we're gone.
My plans for Canada? Put it this way, my brother told me that there might not be enough time to do everything I want to do. So I told him we'd have to cut sleep out of the agenda! I haven't been "home" in a very long time. I want to show D where I grew up and why it's so great.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
PS its a beginning and an end if you will. I'm going to see my new nephew and meet family I've never met before (sister-in-law and cousin's children) and basically say goodbye to my Nan who I'll never see again after this trip. She's 92 years old. My D has never met her.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Day 2 for me also, though W is coming by tonight to pick up some paperwork. I don't think that'll be a problem, though, cause I have my "peeps" behind me.
I feel like I'm in a Seinfeld episode - I am master of my domain!
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