You are 100% correct. There was a time when I felt like I had resentment for my W. In particular with her career and that I felt like I was coming in 3rd or 4th in her priorities. I have been a little more assertive in what I want in the last several months in a gentle way. Basically, if I want something I ask for it. It used to be that I would massage her and not get anything in return. Now I might ask for her to massage my face (feels ohh so good) after I rub her feet for a while or something along those lines. The hard part now is that I have little or no leverage in which to ask from (or at least that is how I feel) due to her wanting to be separated. I still ask from time to time if we are hanging out. It is hard to get out of the giver and fixer mentality though
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
