Update: Spoke with my DB coach today (could only afford one session unfortunately). She gave me GREAT insight. Problem is; she had to go before she could really address my "what about June 2nd" question. She didn't really have all the details but told me to just say something like "didn't hear back from you, would you forward me my mail..." And like I said, I don't know if H will take my saying that as me trying to retaliate for not answering my emails etc. She said it was really important for me not to do anything in retaliation right now and to ignore "bad" actions while rewarding or acknowledging the good. So...here's what I did: I went to the Post Office and sent a pre-paid envelope with a note that said, "Didn't hear back from you about what time would work for my visit. Maybe not a good day for your schedule? I understand because that Monday is going to be hectic for me too and I'm not sure what time my friend needs her car back. No big deal. Anyway, would you send me my mail in the enclosed envelope? I'd appreciate it. Thank you! - Deb". And I dropped it in the mail; he'll get it in a couple of days and by then my visit will be just a few days away. DB coach said not to think too far in advance but I figured that the "send me my mail" thing would allow him time to "correct" my assumptions or it will give him an out without forcing him to contact me. Either way it will keep me from having to face him when I'm still working on trying to keep my emotions (and need to control) in check. Hope it works!
