As far as trying to work on anything, do you mean our M, Grace? He has said in no uncertain terms that he wants out and that it's just a matter of getting our ducks in a row.
Yes, I mean your M. Like in your sitch my H has said in no uncertain terms he is "done". He has moved out and moved on, but not filed. Am I foolish for thinking I may still have the chance at a chance? Is it all just false hope? It doesn't matter if I am or it is (although I have to say I dont believe in false hope, only hope). Do you believe in coincidences? I don't, not really. How this applies to your situation is for you to evaluate. I may not have answers per se, but I do have alot more understanding since all of this began. At some point I believe you will too, if you choose to seek it out. It's hard and it really sux sometimes esp looking in a mirror through a magnifying glass. I'mgetting to a poing that my own opinions about me and my life are more valuable than those of others. I don't worry too much about looking foolish, but I don't talk about all I'm doing to much of anyone either. Some things are just private.
I know you have alot on your plate (probably juggling several plates for that matter). Remember to breathe and keep yourself and the kids in your good care. You can do this. You're stronger than you think.
