whatdidido: What did she say when you told her that you would remain faithful while she won't?
she didn't say much, she said "I know" and that was it.
She seems to be moving in a direction to have a fulltime job and not have to be at work until 10am, something with the bar she works for now, I need to sit her down and tell her I've been accomidating up to this point, but I do not want her over at the house everyday. This point I will not back down on. yes she will be there to help take the kids to soccer, or whatever in the evening once or twice a week, but on a daily basis, I do not want her over at the house. She wants the best of both worlds, without the day to day hassels of raising 4 kids.
She said a while back that she has been finding out who she was over the last 3 years, and a W with 4 kids isn'who she is, or was cut out to be (official reason why she is leaving) we have talked about her becomming a Landscape Architect, a Personal Trainer, etc. (before I knew she had OM and was moving out), I told her once the kids were in school, she could do whatever she wanted and I would support her. Now when she has found herself, she is going to work in a bar ??? what happened to becomming Personal Trainer, Etc. ??? why not look for a job in a field related to what you want to do ???
I'm going to be happy, helpful, forgiving, patient and loving. Not just to W and kids, but to everyone I know and meet. This is me, this is how I want to live my life, this may not be the best course of action to save a marriage, but its the best way to live my life. Why is the right path is always the hardest.
We all have a long haul ahead of us good or bad it's the path we choose thats important.
M45 W41 M10 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me PA confirmed 03/08 no sex yet ?? let me hope !!! W moving out June 1st - 8 days
