I know you were against seducing him during this whole thing, and I can understand your feelings about that (I know I struggled with many conflicting feelings about it during the D), but sex is one of the better ways to bring a man closer to you (from a lot of what I've read often sex=love for men), and OW has been able to use that one to her advantage. If I thought you had any desire to stop the D, I'd suggest you try it.... at least until the D is final... but the impression I've had for awhile is that you are done.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
