I'm a lot like your W. I am very self centered and I spent 10 years with H taking to the point that he forgot what HE wanted. I am now trying to give to him what he needs and i'm sure he's wondering WTF. But you, like my H, need to stand up a little more for what you need in your R. My H did this too late and now he's gone. Please take a look at what you need too because if not you might learn to resent her.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
