(9:00:04 PM) H: some can walk away (9:00:11 PM) H: some are scarred (9:00:27 PM) H: some need more excitement in life (9:10:02 PM) H: you dont get scarred unless you happen to be particularly weak, most of us just grow the [censored] up
Hmmm...I think we can rule out that he grew up. He IS scarred (I think they all are to some degree), I also think he needs more excitement in life. Unfortunately I think the excitement is a side effect. They get such an adrenaline rush while they are there and then come back to everyday life and can't handle it. The military should require counseling for all returning soldiers, the bad thing is I think they make them feel that they are weak if they feel they need counseling. At least that is the way my H felt about it. He went to an on base therapist and was basically told to suck it up...thus his disdain for counselors in general.
My H gets like that sometimes too, and like you I don't really know what to say. It is very frustrating.
Glad he told you about the tax money. Hopefully you won't have a hard time getting it from him.
