W is now out

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Sorry, I messed up the formatting on the post and it wont let me edit. This is how I meant it to look:

Yes but they are one-sided tentative. The reason they are tentative is because you are not GAL, you are waiting around with no plans until she decides whether she will see you or not.

Does that sound healthy in the context that she just left your marriage?

"I just got back from driving 100 miles round trip to go to dinner with her because she asked me to see her place."

She just LEFT YOU. And you're driving 100 miles to see her when she asks?

Perhaps you should get the opinion of a veteran on this, as I'm a newbie too. See what Tia thinks.

I understand what you are saying here completely. Only reason I ask about whether this is the right thing is because we had talked about this days before. Although we did not plan a specific time, or place, we agreed that we would do something together. Am I still wrong for going?

And forgive me, but how do I get another member involved in this? Do I just invite them?

Perhaps she wants to start over, like you are dating. Then you can have a second chance, to take things slow and to just allow the relationship to progress without letting control issues get in the way.

It very much feels like that.