Twin, You could be right. Especially if your wife went thru quite a bit to have the babies. I remember when my kids were entering preschool and I was early-mid 30's. I had a stressful but successful career and was not real impressed with my husband at that point. I remember looking around thinking, is this ALL there is? I probably could have started into a MLC but he went into high gear with his own. I hung on for about 6 years, but it got to the point were it was doing serious damage to the kids and I. My mother finally said "you can't fix this, and there won't be anything left of you for the kids if you don't get out". No one in my family had been divorced before. We had been married 18 years, and had been together all of my adult life. In some ways I still grieve that R. Always will.
I agree that you should leave no stone unturned. I don't believe in D. I hate that our society makes it so acceptable and easy. I was so very glad to find the DB book and discover others that feel the same way.
Hope that your weekend went well. I had some ups and downs. H and I worked on a couple of projects together, and had fun. One minute he is planning for our future, and the next he is asking if I can make it alright on my own. Since finding this site and putting the DB practices into action his ups and downs are not shaking me quite so badly. Also I have begun to recognize when he is trying to pick a fight with me, and I walk away and find something to do outside. Let me tell you, my flowers and gardens have not looked so good in years!
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
