It's really not that confusing. She obviously wants to keep you connected. The problem is that she's giving mixed messages. But I kind of see it as she's letting go of you, but she doesn't want you to let go of her.
It's anxiety-provoking to leave such a big commitment, and anxiety-provoking to return to such a big commitment, so she is walking the line.
What I am concerned about is that you are taking the passive role and just letting her push you away and then reel you in whenever she chooses.
I think you have been very consistent with going dark and such, that she keeps moving back in because you are doing such a great job.
So continue with your consistency. Don't let her fix your computer, and don't rub her back when she asks for it. Take control and say look, We are either committed or we're not committed, but I'm not going to play these games where you are fixing my computer and I'm rubbing your back. Your either in or your out.
And I think she will respect a man who will not allow her to lead him around the way she is trying not. Not completing succeeding because you have been doing a great job. Just stay consistent.
But before you do this and say this to her, let's get agreement or disagreement from a veteran on the board, like Tia, because I'm a newby, too.
Also I had a question...Oh yes, what is happening with the date for this Saturday night? Have either of you brought it up?
