Personally, I think exposure right at the very beginning is best whilst shock can still be huge. I think some of the drive/force is lost if you wait for exposure and then the 'shock' value is lost.....it kind of gives the unfaithful S too long to think and justify their actions too themselves. Also if they lie and get you to belive them I think they thinnk they can just keep pulling your chain. I guess I am trying to say that firmness and consistency are important factors.
I also think timing has an effect - how long the A has been going on. The earlier it is when it is in the heady hormonal stage the harder it is to break whatever you do.
Puppy started a thread called something like 'What would you do different' and that had some pretty interesting stuff on it - find that and read it.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
