Hope4us struggle, part 4

[Hope4us]

You make a good point Saffie. If you expose, be ready for the chit storm that will accompany it.

I didn't expose right away after I found out about the affair. I thought WW would end it after I found out about it and OM had moved ~250 miles away. And I think she attempted to end it, but couldn't give it up. So then she made up a story that I foolishly believed and she went to see him. And when I busted her when she got back but didn't immediately kick her out, I think she went into cake eating mode deluxe. And when she took off to see him a couple more weekends I realized that it wasn't going to end anytime soon on it's own and I couldn't stand by and let her leave for the weekend and go spend it with OM. That's when I decided to expose.

So I don't really feel bad at all about exposing. Layered exposure eventually ended the affair (as best I can tell) and it gave me some self respect back. I just got to a point where I didn't care if exposing ended my marriage or not, I was not going to put up with the abuse, disrespect and lies any longer.