W is now out

[upside_downer]

Going dark means you are busy or tired or something. You need to be the one to choose not to see her.


Just keep her being the one who is pursuing and by doing that you can't put her in charge of deciding when she will make time for you.

If she winds up saying no because she is tired, just say OK I understand and if she tries to make specific other plans, I suggest you do the above.

Wow, really? How many times do I lie and say I have things to do when I don't? In this case, we had tentative plans already to do dinner.

I just got back from driving 100 miles round trip to go to dinner with her because she asked me to see her place.

I think I acted great while I was there. I didn't really initiate the conversations, letting her talk for once. There were times when neither of us said anything (usually that bothered me in the past, but I was strangely OK with it). Didn't bring up the R, or any responsibilities, or schedules or anything. Just talked about "stuff." Oh, and she grabbed my arm while we were walking from the car into the restaurant and held my hand.

When we were done with the food, I drove her back to her place, btu didn't park, just pulled up near her door and let her out. She said "this is weird" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. Then, as she was getting out of the car, she said "this is surreal, it's like we're dating." Not sure if that is considered good or bad?