Strong, I am really interested to hear your thoughts. I have read all your posts on other threads and you seem very wise. and you have understanding of different sides of these things.
I look forward to your suggestions/ideas. also, i've been reading some other DB stuff and seem to be getting that in doing 180's you kind of be a person who isn's so affected by what the other does, etc. Be your own person, for yourself. I've been doing that sort of out of self-defense(though probably not consistently, i'm sure - so it's prob null and void). I feel better and stronger, but the distance between me and H has just gotten greater. anyway, my question is: i know it's good to be self-sufficient (i can't remember a better way to put it, hopefully you'll know what i mean) when the other has walked away, but what about when he's still here, and ostensibly wants to 'work' on it and make it better? I'll prob post again soon, we'll see our old counselor tomorrow. right now i'm feeling like it was never that good, so what are we 'working' to get back to? I'll do anything though, not to break up my son and his daddy, including Letting Go of (what i thought were) my core needs in a rtlnshp. LetGo
