So I go out of my way to make sure things here aren't very nice for him. I have locked up all of the good, comfy blankets and pillows. He is stuck with scratchy blankets and throw pillows on the hard couch. I take the food that I want with me so that he has no access to the food or drink. I have taken the TV out of the house and put it in the garage. Stuff like that to show him that as long as he is continuing with the OW, he is not welcomed here.
So I go out of my way to make sure things here aren't very nice for him. I have locked up all of the good, comfy blankets and pillows. He is stuck with scratchy blankets and throw pillows on the hard couch. I take the food that I want with me so that he has no access to the food or drink. I have taken the TV out of the house and put it in the garage. Stuff like that to show him that as long as he is continuing with the OW, he is not welcomed here.
NOW yer talkin'!!!
Puppy...I thought you'd like that. Know what else I do? I turn off the porch lights and double lock the doors. So he has to fumble around in the dark with 2 keys and 2 locks to unlock.
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
Puppy...I thought you'd like that. Know what else I do? I turn off the porch lights and double lock the doors. So he has to fumble around in the dark with 2 keys and 2 locks to unlock.
Loving it!!!!
Way to go protecting yourself financially and making things unwelcome for H. Sara, you are so strong, you amaze me!
Last summer when my wife was having her affair, she went out one night, and I was sure she was going to see OM. She claimed it was just a party "with some people from work," but I looked her square in the eyes and said "I HOPE you're not going to see your boyfriend, because that would be incredibly disrespectful to the family" (we had just taken the boys to see the 4th of July fireworks, and now she was leaving us while me and the boys were doing our traditional blow-the-fireworks-off-in-the-driveway thing). She INSISTED she wasn't.
Anyway, I knew she was, and I turned out all the outside and inside lights on her, and locked the house up tight. Well, what was CLASSIC about it was, since I had put a voice-activated recorder in her car, I was able to actually hear her, the next day, when I played it back, say:
(muttering under her breath): "I can't believe it. He turned teh F$#*ing lights out on me. What an ass." This, after hearing her meet up with OM, recalling the whole "I HOPE you're not going to see your boyfriend" story to him, a bunch of "ILYs," etc.
Sometimes, you just gotta find the fun in the middle of the hell.
I would LOVE to be a fly on the wall when H came home from OW's last night and had all of the lights out and needed to use two seperate keys to unlock the doors. It won't stop him from seeing the OW in anyway, but still I am sure he was cussing me out as well. I am trying to think of more things I can do to make the house more uncomfortable for him.
I told him that we needed to talk sometime this week. I really want to make sure that we are on the same page in regards to this D. That is understands what I am doing (without knowing the details obviously) and that he is sure this is what he wants since I am totally not sure if it is what I want.
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
Too bad you don't have one of the old time breaker boxes where you could just pull a few out so that the light and power didn't work either... Remove the light bulbs, take all of the towels and soap. Replace the shampoo with Nair? Put dye in the shampoo :). Be devious.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Too bad you don't have one of the old time breaker boxes where you could just pull a few out so that the light and power didn't work either... Remove the light bulbs, take all of the towels and soap. Replace the shampoo with Nair? Put dye in the shampoo :). Be devious.
Great minds think alike. I was thinking of interrupting the power, too. =)
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
Something about the Central Valley girls, its in the water.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
When my wife was in her full-blown affair, there were some days when I knew when they'd be hooking up. I would always try to come up with some of what we called "affairus interruptus"! Some reason why she was needed at home, or one of the kids needed her for something, or I'd offer to take her car in for service. LOL.
Only worked two or three times, and they'd then only get together later, but it suuuuure was fun!
