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I understand where you are coming from. My W so far has pretty much put the "blame" on me for what has happened and I am also expecting some modifications on her part in the future. Blame is too strong a word....I get the feeling that she expects changes from me but I am not sure she has done any of the intrspection work i have done in the last few months....I hope i am wrong.
I see however, that you seem very patient and willing to wait for your W to "help" or come around a little. I guess patience is just as important in piecing as it is during the early post bomb periods.