Thanks oneDay; to answer your question as to why I moved out when it was H that dropped the bomb, well, we were already behind on our mortgage payments and in severe debt. I originally said to H that I wanted to keep the house and he would have to move out if he didn't want to be with me anymore but that I was staying put. The problem is, H was too busy partying and coming home at 4am to look for a place to live. It was sheer torture. He was constantly rubbing my nose in the fact that he no longer cared for me. I had to move out for my sanity. He was just really angry and took it out on me every chance he got. I feel good about the envelope idea too, just because I've already expressed my feelings to him via email and now I just need to wait and see if he'll come around like he has in the past. I realized when I read DR, that in the past when he'd come around after my implementing the LRT, I'd turn down his offers to go out simply because I was afraid that he was trying to have it both ways (be free and have me at his beck and call). I had reciprocated and had been there for him for nearly 4 or 5 months while our relationship went nowhere and I started getting too anxious. That's why he pushed me away in March and said he wanted space. But after that, when I truly stopped all communication, he said he missed me and offered to take me out etc. but I was now suspicious that he was playing games with me. I even had separation papers drawn up. (never officially filed). This I think hurt H's ego and now he has REALLY let go of me and seems to be completely uninterested. If I could just get to a point where he was remotely interested in me again, I'd know it's okay to politely accept the occasional date; I just need to stop being so inquisitive or over eager, or to the other extreme where I turn him down. That's where I'm at right now. Just hoping that the LRT will work ONE MORE TIME, so I can get some kind of relationship (any relationship)going again.
