I was just reading your thread and thought there were a lot of similarities in our sitch's. Same ages (my H is a bit younger- 28), I got the bomb a few weeks after you, and H moved out a week before you did, saying almost exactly what your H said to you.
I like the idea of sending the envelope, perhaps with a message that just says 'Dear H, if you could put my mail in here and return it that would be great. Thanks! Love Deb'
Don't even try to get him wondering anything at this point- the less you try to the more he will, if that makes sense?
I also like the idea of you not contacting him for now. Perhaps at the next interaction you guys might work out a visiting schedule for your dogs? Once that's structured I'd imagine the interactions will go more smoothly.
Can I also ask why you moved out, if H dropped the bomb? Sorry if you've posted this already- I haven't been back and read all your posts but will try to over the next couple of days.
