I was just about to suggest that you look into scheduling a Retrouvaille weekend when I turned back a page and saw that CW has already told you about it. So I am here if you have questions. It is a wonderful way to find that spark in the marriage again. My H and I had been married 28 years when we finally went. I'd say the spark had been gone for the last 20 years. So neither of us thought we would have very good results. We just went because we didn't know what else to do. It was an unbelievable experience. Not just for us; we could see that the weekend had a good effect on all the couples there. We all arrived on Friday night looking tense and frightened. And by Saturday at dinner time, everyone was walking around with their arms around their spouses. Get that! And all the complaints at breakfast that we had single beds in the rooms! For us the results have lasted. It is over a year later and we haven't had an argument yet. We use the dialogue technique when we see that we disagree on something, and it gets us through it. The website is http://www.helpourmarriage.org, with dates and locations of weekends. Since it is sponsored by the Catholic Church, it is very affordable. They ask for an initial deposit, and then after the weekend, they ask for a donation.
