W is now out

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Hi,

That's the thing. He's practically her cousin. So you can't really ever feel like you are as good friends with her family as she is. If something happens, they will always choose her.

True. I guess I was so wrapped up in how I felt, I forgot that fact.

But then again, if that was the only thing that bothered you, perhaps I would think that. But because you have put so many stipulations or complaints on everything she does, everywhere she goes, everyone she hangs out with without you, it kind of takes away from winning on this one thing, because it looks like you are trying to control her generally in every aspect.

Another goal of mine: be less whiney. I used to be easy going. Somewhere, I lost that. Need to get it back.

I think the best thing you can do now is go dark.

I can't wait to get the book so I fully understand how this works. So far, last night was the W's first night sleeping at her apt. She already called because we had tentative plans to do something like dinner tonight. She asked me if I still wanted to do it, so trying to stay positive, but not be wishy-washy, I said
"I would love to see you, however if you are tired, I understand. I will leave it up to you" (she was very tired because she hasn't been sleeping and had no food to eat. She went over to her moms today, and now has to go buy a vacuum, so she's tired. She is currently going to call me back and let me know. I wonder what the best thing to do here is?

I think I should have said that I would like to see her (versus wanting to) and left it at that...thoughts on that?

How many years ago did she tell you about the almost-sex thing?

She told me probably about 2 years ago.
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