Good advice above, on not forgetting about the GAL activities.
I am concentrating on that now.
I am also trying to be aware of giving her space when we are together in the house. I go to the sun room to read, go outside to wash my Jeep, or else go play my guitar in the music room for an hour or so. I don't tell her where I'm going, I just go.
Another thing to remember is to keep being the same way I was when W was gone. That got us to this point. I can't relax my diligence, or else I might slip back into my old ways. To this end, I make the bed every day, I do my own laundry, I load and empty the dishwasher. All things she used to do. Doing these things reminds her of how self-sufficient I became when she was gone. I know she likes that, she told me so a couple weeks ago.
We had a very nice weekend, but yesterday we had a mini-R talk, and she told me she still feels a "void" in our relationship, but she doesn't know what it is. She has no idea what she thinks she's missing, just that it "feels" like something is. I just nod and tell her that I understand...this will take time, there's no rush.
She thinks I am being very patient with her, and that I am treating her better than she deserves...I am being "really accommodating to her" in her words.
That is actually not true...I am just "acting as if". I am being aware of what my shortcomings were when she lost interest, and trying to change those behaviours permanently.
One thing I am keeping an eye on is intimacy. We are not doing it like we were when we hooked up while apart. I know there was a desperation on both our parts back then, and we are a bit more secure now...like I said, I'm just watching the dynamic.
Anyway...there's my latest report from the "Piecing Trenches"!
