Sure. But it will be easy for me -- W and I hardly talk at all any more. Though I will have to have at least one R talk during those 13 days. D-Day is in 8 - hard not to talk about the R that day, though I guess we don't have to talk to each other, just the judge!
Me45 W35 M6 T8 D16 SD11 D0 Dec 07: Bomb July 08: Busted! Thread
Count me in too. I have actually been pretty good about it lately. Being separated has actually helped me with that and of course the support I get from here....probably the most help.
I don't think it is mean to be a little happy about him being a little lonely. I got a similar feeling when my W talked about having to do stuff around the house (I think I ruined her from years of spoiling....) That is kind of the objective of DBing....to get them to miss you.
He might have been phishing you a little bit to see if you would bite on him putting the lonely lure out there. Seeing if you would bring up a R talk when he used the L word. Give yourself a pat on the back for not taking the bait on that hook. I think him usng the friend word is just him taking small baby steps but keep up the good DB work.
My mom and particularly my sister have been had a very rocky relationship with my W. A lot has to do with the distance and cultural differences. We live in the southern US and I am from New England. I made a mistake through the majority of my marriage to just try to get them to see the positive qualities of each other and try to get them to get along instead of just telling them to deal with it and get past it.
Sounds like a nice vacation coming your way. When I was in the Coast Guard and visited Halifax. I must say...living in the deep south with New England blood I could use some cooler weather already!
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
Ok so we have another DBer up for the challenge eh?
TD, I was the one who started in on the friendship speel. Thats one of the resons I'm going to try for 5 days without a R talk. Its really getting old for both H and I. I don't want him to have any negative feeling toward me before the trip. Hopefully he'll spend 8 days remembering good things.
I know what you mean about cultural differences. I'm Canadian married to a Peruvian and we live in Venezuela! Thank God he went to an International school and has travelled quite a bit to the US.
Halifax is nice but St. John's is nicer.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
He'll be staying in the apartment while D and I are gone. Not sure but that might make him even lonelier. Should I even wish my H be lonely because loneliness may lead to missing me? Is that mean of me?
It is very natural for you to wish that and no, it's not mean.
Jen, I thought your H had moved out of his parents' place and into an apartment.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
Anyone else care to join?