Kikifree, doesn't your h's comment say it all about HIM. He just cannot be NICE Because, as I suspect, he is really pretty messed and and unhappy. And aren't you are glad you are not with such a downer? My hairdresser is one of my good friends, and has been so supportive to me. Thinks my h is crazy! I have been going to him for about 16 years, and he knows the whole family. He is a most wonderful human being