Thanks for the replies -I am overwhelmed at the kindness of strangers -Yes I will fight on because I know my husband is so guilty,confused ,ashamed and weak. It is true that 28 years of history and care is worth a years wait-Meanwhile I am trying to get a life without him . Ive read lots of books and the Divorce Busting one is definitely the best- as soon as I began making changes in my behaviour he grew more interested. Its just that I am constantly anxious and impatient!My family are worried that this goes on for another year or more- he is a notorious ditherer.Ive been insisting on regular contact (scared he slipped away) but maybe I should go dark and ask for nothing?
