Sounds like a lot of fun. Don't try to read too much into what W says to you, to MIL or to anyone else. They have constructed their own reality distortion field and until they shut it off, I think just about everything they say to friends and family is to justify their distorted reality. It gets even worse when her friends are enablers. My W has one of those.
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